Mature Dating

Every now and then I think of this blog I started. Its been 3 long years since I wrote here. Once again I’m alone. This time divorced. Life is just so full of twists and turns. It lasted almost 2 years but honestly I just can’t compete with this grown mans Mother! I’m not here to complain but to maybe share my thoughts with you all. I’m older, hopefully a bit wiser and starting over to look for someone to share the rest of my life with.
The first place I’ll look is the same as before. Senior Friend Finder. I have kept up with email with some friends I met there before. If you are alone and want to give searching for love a try, then by all means check them out. You will meet really honest people who love chatting. It costs nothing to go in and look around. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain.

Its been a whole year since I have posted in this blog. To be completely honest I forgot I even started it. That isn’t old age talking either! This past almost year has been too fast for me. I only got here today because I had received an email asking me to renew this domain. I thought about it and to be honest I almost didn’t renew it. Then I looked at my hosting and saw how many people still come here after all this time I knew I had to keep it. I really need to say I’m sorry for not keeping up with this.
I came here today and saw all the comments I had. Unfortunately I had to delete them all because of all the spam that was mixed in with them. Over 12,000 comments to go through and I just couldn’t go through each and every one to save the good ones. So I used mass edit and ended up loosing them all
Anyway, a bit of a update on my life.
Guess what…… I am now a married women again! See, it can be done. I met a wonderful person online and I am once again a happy person. Not to say that you can’t be alone and be happy, most people probably can. I’m not one of them
I have been married for 4 months now and have known him over a year. I’m busy and still working and on my second life adventure! Its so nice to be able to wake up next to someone again.
You might ask yourself if online dating is for you or not. I’ll tell you one thing, you have to be open to new things and meeting new people. I had a few dates that were not great, but I never met anyone but sincere people.
I guess I want the rest of the people in the world to be as happy as I am too. So open yourself up if you think you are ready to try the online dating scene. Maybe you will meet someone special too.
Remember guys, you can fall in love after 40, look at me!

Senior Friend Finder

* Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after
you’ve had a baby.
* Somebody doesn’t know that once you’re a mother, “Normal,” is history.
* Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct .
* Somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
* Somebody said being a mother is boring ……
* Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver’s permit.
* Somebody said if you’re a “good” mother, your child will “turn out good.”
* Somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.
* Somebody said “good” mothers never raise their voices …..
* Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child
hit a golf ball through the neighbor’s kitchen window
* Somebody said you don’t need an education to be a mother.
* Somebody never helped a fourth grader with her math. (or an 8th grader!)
* Somebody said you can’t love the fifth child as much as you love the first.
* Somebody doesn’t have five children.
* Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books .
* Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears (or get his head stuck in a railing).
* Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery .
* Somebody never watched her “baby” get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten. or on a plane headed for military ” boot camp
* Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one
hand tied behind her back .
* Somebody never organized four giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
* Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married
* Somebody doesn’t know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother’s heartstrings.
* Somebody said a mother’s job is done when her last child leaves home
* Somebody never had grandchildren.
* Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don’t need to
tell her
* Somebody isn’t a mother.
HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

Remember Jerry Hall, the model who married Mick Jagger? Jerry was famous for making this statement:

“My mother said it was simple to keep a man. You must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen, and a whore in the bedroom.”

I don’t know about you, but if keeping a man meant all that work, I’d have stayed single.

In addition to that pearl of wisdom, Ms. Hall offered this one: “Even if you have only two seconds, drop everything and give him (oral sex). That way he won’t really want sex with anyone else.”

Poor Jerry. Too bad her mother didn’t tell her that if a man tends to want sex with “anyone else,” he’s not great husband material.

Sadly, despite all her hard work, Mick Jagger continued to have sex with other people and fathered a child with another model during his marriage to Hall. They are now divorced. So much for keeping a man!

The point? No guy is worth running yourself ragged for. Instead of appreciating your efforts, he will likely take you for granted and come to resent you. Think about it: Do you fall for guys who are at your beck and call all the time? They’re great for helping you move, but you probably wouldn’t marry one.

All right. Let’s say you decide to move in with a guy. Before you run out to Bed Bath & Beyond, it’s absolutely imperative that you talk to your boyfriend about sharing household chores. It’s not romantic, but you’ll save yourself much misery in the end. And whatever you do, don’t get off on the wrong foot by cooking dinner every night and doing his laundry.

Resist any and all impulses to “wife and mother” the guy. Otherwise, he’ll take you for granted, or even worse, marry you and expect you to be his servant for the rest of your life. And that’s definitely not romantic!

Allow a man to cook for you for a change. Let him do your laundry every now and then. There’s no reason to expect him to be your maid in the living room, cook in the kitchen, or whore in the bedroom, but every once in a while it wouldn’t hurt.

Remember: You have a lot to offer (if you don’t believe me, take out a pen and paper and write down a list of the qualities that make you special; emphasize things like your sense of humor, leave off your ability to fold a fitted sheet).

Don’t let a guy do you any favors. Keep this in mind: You’re a great girl, and he’d be lucky to have you.
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I was looking around Senior Friend Finder and was surprised to discover they have blogs! So of course I started to read them There are many posts I wanted to share with you guys but here is one of them for now. I thought it was beautiful… hope you enjoy!

I wrote this poem during a very dark time in my life…to remind myself of what an incredible journey I’ve had. I’m sharing it here in the small chance that it will help others look to their own treasured “good times” when they are in a bleak period:

My Own
I’ve ridden mountain trails where few have dared to go
And marveled at the majesty of peaks white-capped with snow
I’ve seen the red hawk take to flight and eagles soar on high
Wings spread wide in graceful glide across an azure sky

I’ve made my bed in hidden meadows where grass grows lush and deep
And while the Northern Lights did dance I counted stars to sleep
Then thru’ the ghostly morning mist beneath a sky turned pink
Saw doe and fawn slip silently to stream’s edge for a drink

I’ve gazed across the vastness of the desert country where
The pungent sage and juniper perfumed the evening air
And watched the setting sun paint skies a brilliant hue
Of flaming red and orange then shade to midnight blue

And from my youth I still recall a sultry summer night
OF swimming naked in a lake bathed in pale moonlight
Then rising from dark waters with silver drops still clinging
I let the breeze caress my skin and set my senses singing

I’ve known the heat of passion and felt the primal need
Rising to another’s touch enflamed with urgent greed
Desire all consuming, climbing to that height
The pinnacle of pleasure with love its beacon light

I’ve felt the first faint flutter of life beneath my heart
And held my babies to my breast, astonished that a part
Of love we’d shared would come to be this tiny miracle
And lifted up my thanks to God for making life so full

So…I will not grieve for love now lost or promises forsaken
Nor mourn for things that might have been on paths that were not taken
With all the wonders that I’ve seen and pleasures that I’ve known
My life has been uniquely blessed…I’m glad it is my own!

Gay Stockdale (copyright 1/02)

Recently, I was diagnosed with A. A. A. D. D.

Age Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.

This is how it manifests:
I decide to wash my car. As I start toward the garage,

I notice that there is mail on the hall table.
I decide to go through the mail before I wash the car. I lay my car keys down on the table, put the junk mail in the trash can under the table, and notice that the trash can is full. So, I decide to put the bills back on the table and take out the trash first.

But then I think, since I’m going to be near the mailbox when I take out the trash anyway, I may as well pay the bills first.

I take my checkbook off the table, and see that there is only one check left
My extra checks are in my desk in the study, so I go to my desk where I find the can of Coke that I had been drinking.

I’m going to look for my checks, but first I need to push the Coke aside so that I don’t accidentally knock it over. I see that the Coke is getting warm, and I decide I should put it in the refrigerator to keep it cold. As I head toward the kitchen with the coke a vase of flowers on the counter catches my eye–they need to be watered.
I set the Coke down on the counter, and I discover my reading glasses that I’ve been searching for all morning.

I decide I better put them back on my desk, but first I’m going to water the flowers.

I set the glasses back down on the counter, fill a container with water and suddenly I spot the TV remote. Someone left it on the kitchen table.

I realize that tonight when we go to watch TV, I will be looking for the remote, but I won’t remember that it’s on the kitchen table, so I decide to put it back in the den where it belongs, but first I’ll water the flowers. I splash some water on the flowers, but most of it spills on the floor.

So, I set the remote back down on the table, get some towels and wipe up the spill.

Then I head down the hall trying to remember what I was planning to do.

At the end of the day: the car isn’t washed, the bills aren’t paid, there is a warm can of Coke sitting on the counter, the flowers aren’t watered, there is still only one check in my checkbook, I can’t find the remote, I can’t find my glasses, and I don’t remember what I did with the car keys.

Then when I try to figure out why nothing got done today, I’m really baffled because I know I was busy all day long, and I’m really tired.

I realize this is a serious problem, and I’ll try to get some help for it.

Don’t laugh — if this isn’t you yet, your day is coming!

Cute Love Quote by Joan Crawford
Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.

From the movie Phenomenon
Will you love me for the rest of my life? No, I’ll love you for the rest of mine.

Mae West
I have found men who didn’t know how to kiss.
I’ve always found time to teach them.

Woody Allen
I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallpox.

Zsa Zsa Gabor
I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house.

Unknown
Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age.

On March 24th I lost my dog. Actually I had to have him put down, and it wasn’t easy. I had him for 13 1/2 years. I did everything in my power to keep him alive for several years. He had bad hips and I thought that would be what would end it for him. It was kidney failure that ended it. He started to suffer and I couldn’t bear it. He was such a great pet and I couldn’t let him hurt not even a day longer. This is probably something I shouldn’t even be writing in here but I feel such a deep sadness inside right now. It’s so hard to let go of your feelings. I got this card in the mail from a friend and I thought it was so beautiful I am going to write it here.

They will not go quietly,
the dogs who’ve shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know
their spirit still survives.
Old habits still make us think
we hear barking at the door.
Or step back when we drop
a tasty morsel on the floor.
Our feet still go around the place
the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,
we miss them terribly.
And although time may bring new friends
and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our heart
belongs to them….
and always will.

I was thinking some of you that visit my site might not be my age. So I thought that maybe not just someone older might be interested in finding someone online. I decided to add a link to the regular Friend Finder page for anyone that stumbles here that might be looking for a younger group of singles to meet.
Friend Finder

Looking back sometimes, it’s hard to believe that we have lived as long as we have.

As children, we would ride in cars without seat belts or air bags. Riding in the back of a pickup truck on a warm day was always a special treat.

Our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paint. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors, or cabinets, and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We would spend hours building our gocarts out of scraps and then rode down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times we learned to solve these problems.

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. No cell phones.

We played dodge ball and sometimes the ball would really hurt. We got cut and broke bones and broke teeth and there were no law suits from these accidents. They were accidents! No one was to blame but us! Remember accidents?

We had fights and punched each other and got black and blue and learned to get over it. We ate cupcakes, bread and butter, and drank soda but we were never overweight, we were always outside playing.

We shared one soda with four friends, from one bottle and no one died from this?

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo, X Boxes, video games at all, 99 channels on cable, video tape movies, surround sound, personal cell phones, Personal Computers, Internet chat rooms, we had friends.

We went outside and found them. We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s home and knocked on the door, or rung the bell or just walked in and talked to them. Imagine such a thing. Without asking a parent! By ourselves! Out there in the cold cruel world! Without a guardian.

How did we do it? We made up games with sticks and tennis balls and ate worms and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes, nor did the worms live inside us forever.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment.

Some students weren’t as smart as others so they failed a grade and were held back to repeat the same grade. Tests were not adjusted for any reason.

Our actions were our own. Consequences were expected. No one to hide behind. The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke a law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law, can you imagine that!

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers and problem solvers and inventors, ever.

The past 50 years has been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all.

I was reading news online and thought this was so cute I had to put it here.

Girl Buys Prom Date For $29.95
A High School senior auctioned himself off as a date on eBay. Rachel is shelling out $29.95 to have Stu escort her to the prom.

The student said she didn’t think she would actually win the auction. Rachel said she just entered a bid to make her ex-boyfriend jealous.

Stu thinks his date will be getting a lot for her money. He said he’s popular and a wrestler. Stu added that girls tell him he’s pretty hot.

:)
Maybe I should check eBay auction more often!

I am always trying to pass around little tips that I find on the internet and I found this one to be good reading.

Never give out too much information about yourself until you know the other person well. Unfortunately, there are predators out there even to mature datingsites. Find a dating service that can provide a safe environment to ensure that you won’t have to worry about this problem. I still think
Senior Friend Finder is at the top of the list. Other things to keep in mind are setting boundaries with dating so that you can stay in your comfort zone. This is a very important step to take and one that should not be ignored. It can save you a lot of hassle down the road.

But, thanks to services who do provide a screened environment, mature dating doesn’t have to be something to be afraid of. In fact, in some cases, dating online can be even safer than regular dating, due to this screening process that is required by most dating websites and agencies. Make sure to thoroughly check out any dating site before joining. If you know someone that has used that particular place, ask them about it first. Go with what you know and have heard to be the best.

Things are going great for me, and I hope for all of you that read this also. I am always writing about the changes in my life since I have started to date again because there has been so many. This past weekend I have meet his family. He had already met most of mine. We traveled to the rest home where his Mother stays and I met her. Then after that we went to meet his brother and his family. It turned out to be a great day. One I dreaded at first but they were all very nice.
So are things getting serious, well….. yes, I guess they are. I think love is in the air for the both of us. It is still early in our relationship, at least for me to say the “L” word. It has only been a little more then three months. If it were up to him though, we would be living together or at the very least making wedding plans.
Anyway, have any of you taken the plunge yet? Don’t be afraid, like the title of this says…… Its a new way to meet people. If its a Saturday night and your sitting home alone. Take a chance. Remember most places let you join for free. Go in and take a look around. Life is about taking chances, and it sure beats watching TV.

Life does go on, no matter what happens. Whether its a loss of a loved one, or the loss of someone you have been dating. Eventually, you will be able to get out of bed, go a day without bursting into tears and have a good time again.
Unfortunately there are no magic tricks to help you move on. Time really is a great healer and so the first few days and weeks are going to be the worst. Staying in and being miserable is a part of the healing process.
At some point, you will find yourself alone in situations where you would previously have been a couple. Going alone can really be uncomfortable.
You might not want to start another relationship just yet but noticing that there are other men/women out there can take your mind off your old love. Even if you doubt you will ever get over your ex, there’s little harm in assessing the competition. Leave yourself open to other options, take some time to heal. Force yourself back into things, and find something new to make you smile again.
Its been so hard for me to make changes, positive ones. So hard to go through days without tears. Yet, now I find I have reasons to smile. Life is getting better. I truly don’t think a time will ever come when I won’t miss what I had. If someone were to ask me today if I were happy, I could honestly answer yes. My life is very different then it was 3 years ago, lots of adjustments. Lots of twists and turns and excitement in it now. Three years ago it was pretty predictable. I still can’t get over the fact that I am dating

WINNING SMILE: Active grandma with original teeth seeking a dedicated flosser to share rare steaks, corn on the cob and caramel candy.

SEEKING LONG TERM COMMITMENT: Recent widow who has just buried fourth husband looking for someone to round out a six-unit plot. Dizziness, fainting, shortness of breath not a problem.

LETS MAKE MEMORIES: I can usually remember Monday through Thursday. If you can remember Friday, Saturday and Sunday, let’s put our two heads together.

OLDER FOXY LADY: Sexy, fashion conscious blue haired beauty, young 80’s, slim, 5′-4″ (used to be 5-7), searching for sharp-looking, sharp-dressing companion. Matching white shoes and belt a plus.

I am very pround of myself today! Everyday I learn something new about how to do things online and this has been a real challenge believe me. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks but I’m out to prove that theory wrong!

You can find my new page HERE Its all the success stories I had time to get up. I did not change a single word. This can be verified too. If you click the link to Senior Friend Finder on that page and look for the success story page you will see I am being honest here. Its in the magazine part of Senior Friend Finder. Now if I don’t have you too confused…..
Hope you enjoy this new section!

Things have been great. Now if spring would just get here and we had some sunshine I would be one happy lady!
I’m still dating Mr. Wonderful and things are going really well so far. He is such a sweetheart and has made my life so much fuller. It is so nice to have someone to go places with again. We go out to eat about 5 times a week and I love it! I have never been so spoiled in my entire life. Anyway enough about me and my life. I thought I would post another success story today from Senior Friend Finder. Maybe tomorrow I can put up an entire page of them. I love reading the success stories so much!

Vanessa40 said
Dear SFF, I just wanted to thank you so much for the wonderful service you present.
I have met wonderful people in this community. The overriding politness, kindness and decency of the people here is such a pleasant and refreshing change.
I am beginning a regular correspondance now with someone who I think is very special, and I would never have been able to meet him without your help.
Thank you so much for creating this platform, and even allowing standard members such as myself the wonderful opportunity of meeting really decent quality people in a safe and pleasant atmosphere
hugs to all of the SFF folks - and thank you all so much
hugs
Vanessa40

Isn’t it time you visited Senior Friend Finder

I saw this on a website and couldn’t resist it and had to share it with my readers. Hope you get as much of a kick out of it as I did

Yes, Barbie is over 50 and officially joined the ranks of us seniors. Soon they will produce a Barbie we can relate to. At long last, here are some NEW Barbie dolls to coincide with her and OUR aging gracefully. These are a bit more realistic…

Bifocals Barbie. Comes with her own set of blended-lens fashion frames in six wild colors (half-frames too!), neck chain, and large-print editions of Vogue and Martha Stewart Living.

Hot Flash Barbie. . Press Barbie’s bellybutton and watch her face turn beet red while tiny drops of perspiration appear on her forehead. Comes with handheld fan and tiny tissues.

Facial Hair Barbie. . As Barbie’s hormone levels shift, see her whiskers grow. Available with teensy tweezers and magnifying mirror.

Flabby Arms Barbie. . Hide Barbie’s droopy triceps with these new, roomier-sleeved gowns. Good news on the tummy front, two-Muumuus with tummy-support panels are included.

Bunion Barbie. . Years of dancing in stiletto heels have definitely taken their toll on Barbie’s dainty arched feet. Soothe her sores with the pumice stone and plasters, then slip on soft terry mules.

No-More-Wrinkles Barbie. . Erase those pesky crow’s-feet and lip lines with a tube of Skin Sparkle-Spackle, from Barbie’s own line of exclusive age-blasting cosmetics.

Mid-life Crisis Barbie. . It’s time to ditch Ken. Barbie needs a change, and Alonzo (her personal trainer) is just what the doctor ordered, along with Prozac. They’re hopping in her new red Miata and heading for the Napa Valley to open a B&B.

Divorced Barbie. . Sells for $199.99. Comes with Ken’s house, Ken’s car, and Ken’s boat.

Post-Menopausal Barbie. . This Barbie wets her pants when she sneezes, forgets where she puts things, and cries a lot. She is sick and tired of Ken sitting on the couch watching the tube, clicking through the channels. Comes with Depends and Kleenex.

You see someone that you feel attracted to, but feel too afraid to make a move. Fear of being rejected maybe? It can be so much easier to do online. So much easier to just send a simple message of “hi”. We all get rejected at some point in our lives but you can’t live life being afraid. You have to do things, even if they frighten you. Sure trying an online dating service is scary, but if I can do it, so can you. You have nothing to lose by trying. I want everyone to be happy! I know that isn’t possible but I can try. Just six months ago I was lonely and sitting alone every night. Last night I went to a movie, we stopped for dessert. I had a great time!! You can too! Of course I am paying for it today. I thought I was well over the flu Today I have no voice…. oh well it was well worth it. Wait until he calls me later. I guess he will just have to bring me some chicken soup. Its never too late to learn about love.